Gender Wars:Can women win? part 3

Studies by the Kinsey Institute show that women tend to talk more openly about sex than men.Also, women are more likely to have qualitative, open discussions about sex, whereas men are more likely to boast and compare. Trust me, the inside of a men's locker room is not a bastion of accurate information or male vulnerability. Women will talk with each other about what's wrong in the bedroom and compare their experiences; men will rarely do that. The sad thing is that even if men and women are willing to talk publicly about sex to their peers, they're rarely willing to talk candidly about sex with each other. Lack of positive communication about sex and relationships is the number-one issue I deal with as a sex therapist.

Closing thoughts:Men crave feedback and guidance in the bedroom, but don't know how to ask and are not socialized to ask. Women should take the lead in expressing their desires in positive, constructive terms. Men have lots of hang-ups and anxieties about sex and are generally mystified by female sexuality. If something works, we often don't know why. Women often bring all of the baggage of a relationship into the bedroom and sometimes the best way of fixing a relationship is to leave the baggage outside.